Saturday, June 14, 2008

Being Nice Sucks

I will never do anything nice again. I will never do anything nice again. I must keep repeating this because I get burned everytime!

I decided that it would be a cute Father's Day gift to set my husband's cell phone up with The Soprano's theme song as a ringtone- something he hasn't wanted forever! Then I planned to text "Happy Father's Day" and he would be gushing with gratitude and come home with a smile... but that's just not the way things go.

So, I go to some ringtone website and enter in his phone number (mistake #1). Then it says the phone will be texted with a pin... so I have to call him, trying to remain as inconspicuous as possible, to get the pin. Mind you, he is WAAAY more clueless with electronics than I am, so I could have told him anything and would have been fine. I chose to go the "I'll tell you later" route (mistake #2).

I get the pin and enter it. Then I am redirected to another website that has nothing to do with ringtones! Since I entered the pin, I wondered, gee, was it really that easy, is it done? So, I call him.

In my mind's eye, I imagine him at work and his phone rings and it's the song he loves and he answers the phone with glee! Nope! What the hell do you want, I'm at work? Your phone didn't do anything new? No, it didn't and he wasn't in the mood and I know when to move on- so I tell him I'll call him back when I get it resolved.

Unfortunately, he beats me to the punch. He calls me back in seconds, screaming and asking about a text he just recieved from laughaholics.com: "Jesus loves you, but everyone else thinks you're an asshole"- fitting actually, to the way I was feeling about him at this moment, but that's beside the point! So, I'm really thinking I've sold my soul to the devil, here and getting nervous.

I call Verizon Wireless and get some professional help on the matter and they explain that if I didn't "approve" anything, that it should stop. I call my husband back, head hung low, coming clean, admitting defeat, but wanting to resolve the issue. I tell him what my plan was and that apparently the site I used was linked with a third party site that took full advantage of my ignorance (I got no symathy from him)!

He then tells me that when he got the text, he APPROVED it!!! He thought it was a Father's Day joke that I was sending him!!! He goes on to BLAME me for his APPROVING it since I didn't tell him what was going on in the first place! UGH! I will never do anything nice again!





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13 comments:

Honeybell said...

"Jesus loves you, but everyone else thinks you're an asshole- fitting actually, to the way I was feeling about him at this moment" OMG, that had me LOL--seriously.

Manic Mom said...

I'm so sorry it went down like that. I feel your pain, I hate when I have to be sneaky to do something nice. When one thing goes wrong it all falls apart. He has got to Love you for trying! I need to get my Hubby something- I have slacked this year. Bad wife, Bad!

C said...

Oh boy, I know...those damn expectations screw things up every time! Oh, yea, and husbands have been known to screw things up on occasion too.
Christy
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Dawn@Embracing the Ordinary Life said...

just found your blog through sarcasti mom...thanks for the laugh...I love the Jesus loves you...text...

FYI I soooo feel you pain with that one...

Kareer Woman said...

LOOOL So glad I found your blog! Being nice does suck, doesn't it :) :) :)

Crazed Mom said...

Men can be such jerks.

lightening said...

Oh. :( Not a very nice outcome. But I hope you don't REALLY stop being nice. :) And I hope you've had a nice apology from your DH!

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Bad Momma said...

Sounds like something that would happen to me. Except for the cell phone/ring tone part. My husband is very cautious with anything done over the internet or cell phone.

I have learned to let him buy his own Father's Day Gift. He lets me pick out my Mother's Day gifts. Not very romantic or surprising but at least we get what we want!
Some days ya just can't win!

IRISHKAT said...

Sorry!! I tried to add a ringtone once and had the same problem. I was scrambling around trying to fix it before my computer geek hubby found out I messed up. So nerve racking - yikes!

Kareer Woman said...

Thanks for stopping by and commenting, I hope you'll return :)

The Mom said...

I hate when that happens, but HE does owe you an apology for being an A$$!

Sue said...

Oh, that was such a great gift idea!!!!! My daughter actually said to me the other day "daddy's not very good at accepting gifts". She's right. Men can be so clueless.

Ann said...

Tena I'm so pissed at your husband!
And I'm so sorry for you.
It's an honest mistake!
Where is his sense of humor?!?
Ugh!!!
You had a great gift idea. Just make sure the next gift you give is to someone truly deserving, right?
Keep trying!